• 今早在evernote里找文档,看到大羊在一年半前给我推荐过一篇译言的文章:How can one classify a true adult? “成年”的真正含义是什么?其实对于这种标准化量表的态度,我一直不觉得它是这一事件的唯一标准,但对于这个表单,至少它罗列的事情都是好的,所以,不论是否标志成熟,能做到都是进步。

    2012年6月第一次看到这20条的时候,我自认为可以做到16条。但这一年半之后的今天,再看到这20条,觉得都没那么容易,虽然有些条目仍然可以笃定的说我做得到,但显然没有16条之多... 或许是我退步了,或许是对自己有了更深的审视... 

    总之,写在这里算作共勉,加油吧。

     

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    How can one classify a true adult? 
    “成年”的真正含义是什么?

    1. Realizing that maturity is an ongoing process, not a state, and continuously striving for self improvement.
    意识到成熟是一个过程而非一种状态,并热衷于提升自己。

    2. Able to manage personal jealousy and feelings of envy.
    有能力控制好自己的猜忌与嫉妒。

    3. Has the ability to listen to and evaluate the viewpoints of others.
    能做到倾听和反思别人的观点。

    4. Maintains patience and flexibility on a daily basis.
    在日常生活中既能表现出耐心,也能体现出灵活性。

    5. Accepts the fact that you can’t always win, and learns from mistakes instead of whining about the outcome.
    能够接受无法改变的事实,能从错误中吸取教训而不是发牢骚。

    6. Does not overanalyze negative points, but instead looks for the positive points in the subject being analyzed.
    不被恐惧所吓倒,能看到事物的积极面。

    7. Is able to differentiate between rational decision making and emotional impulse.
    有能力区分头脑冷静时的决策与情感冲动时的决定之间的不同。

    8. Understands that no skill or talent can overshadow the act of preparation.
    懂得“机会只偏爱有准备的人”这一道理。

    9. Capable of managing temper and anger.
    有能力控制好自己的脾气与愤怒。

    10. Keeps other people’s feeling in mind and limits selfishness.
    不自私,能考虑到他人的感受。

    11. Being able to distinguish between ‘needs’ and ‘wants’.
    能区分出“需要”与“想要”之间的不同。

    12. Shows confidence without being overly arrogant.
    自信但不傲慢。

    13. Handles pressure with self composure.
    能镇定自若地应对压力。

    14. Takes ownership and responsibility of personal actions.
    有掌控自己生活的能力且为自己的行为负责。

    15. Manages personal fears.
    有能力克服恐惧感。

    16. Able to see the various shades of grey between the extremes of black and white in every situation.
    能在“非此即彼”的极端思维中看到事物的其它方面。

    17. Accepts negative feedback as a tool for self improvement.
    接受负面反馈,并视其为提升自我的工具。

    18. Aware of personal insecurities and self-esteem.
    自重而又有危机意识。

    19. Able to separate true love from transitory infatuation.
    能够区分真爱与暂时的迷恋之间的区别。

    20. Understanding that open communication is the key to progression.
    懂得“开诚布公地交流是取得进展的关键”这一道理。

    Above all, true adults do what they have to do when it is required of them, and they do what they want when they can. They are able to distinguish between the two and manage their time and efforts accordingly.
    真正的成年人会在责任落到他头上时挺身而出,而且他也知道何时才能去做自己想做的事。他们能够区分出“自己必须去做的事”和“自己想要去做的事”之间的差别,同时还能合理地分配好自己的时间与精力。